I’ve been meaning to type this up since Sunday, but, I guess I was still processing. Plus I’ve been busy the last couple of days- I’ll address that in a different post.
Sunday I saw M again, and we did some EMDR work. She brought in the tappers this time, which was much more familiar and comfortable. She let me set the speed and the intensity. We were working on the ‘inner child’ stuff again. (Sigh. And I still can’t refer to that without sounding condescending/disgusted… M mentioned she noticed that and it made her sad…)
We were focusing on how I think she’s weak, and because she’s weak then something is wrong with me. (Something being the PTSD, but I didn’t say that…) M asked me to focus on the image of her, and I was. Then M said to notice how small she is, and that triggered some stuff off. I saw her more clearly. I saw a scared, sad, vulnerable little girl. It somehow led to the fact that I push her away, don’t want anything to do with her. I hate seeing her. I hate it. I don’t want to look. I want her to go away. I think I told M that it’s too much. On top of everything else I deal with- while still having to hold myself together and present a ‘normal’ appearence- it’s too much and I can’t handle it. M asked me what ‘it’ is, and I didn’t know.
M asked me to go into that ‘room’ and ask her what ‘it’ is, ask her what she’s trying to put on me. M then turned the tappers back on.
Then something scary happened.
I had a hard time describing it to M, in the moment. It’s like something flipped a switch. I lost the little girl. She wasn’t as clear to me. I lost the feelings. I felt like a glass wall had gone up between this, and I could somewhat see her through it but not clearly, and I couldn’t get to her.
I had this overwhelming feeling that something didn’t want me to know.
This was really scary because it didn’t, at all, feel like something I consciously did. It felt like something else did it. It scared me, and I keep thinking about what I know about dissociative disorders. Which is probably blowing this way out of proportion.
After that, M decided to do something else. She slowed the tappers down a lot, and said we were going to put some separation there and put the little girl somewhere safe. She wanted me to imagine somewhere in my head that felt safe, that the little girl could stay. It took a long time for this image of a meadow to come to mind. M asked me to describe it, so that it became more real. Then she asked me to take the little girl and lead her into the meadow, and tell her it’s hers and she’ll be safe here.
This was hard and rather emotional. Because before when I ‘saw’ her, it was always in this pitch black dark space.
M led me through it some more, helping me leave her there and close up the glass box the meadow was in and put it away on a shelf that I can come back to later. We wrapped up our session after that.
Sometimes, writing this out, this whole thing sounds so bizarre and hokey. It’s like I can’t put into words how real the experience is. But whatever.
I’m still freaked out by what happened before the meadow. It makes the ‘something is wrong with me’ feel even stronger.