While talking about the book I’m currently reading, a YA dystopian novel, my therapist asked me what my idea of a utopia is. Part of my answer was some place with out stress. This led to discussing how I still sort of hold onto this idea that “getting better” and being “healthy” should mean not reacting to triggers and stressors, not getting upset and emotional. “Almost robotic, then?” M asked me. And… yeah. I guess it is sort of robotic.
M told me that’s not what she thinks being healthy means. She thinks it’s means being stressed and triggered, but not letting it send you spinning out of control.
“It’s getting overwhelmed, and taking a break, and grounding yourself, and then going back in.”
It’s hard for me to wrap my head around that. I have no experience, I’ve never seen anyone deal with things that way. Stressors lead to meltdowns and acting like it’s the end of the world. So I guess that’s where I feel like I have to be the exact upset and not react/get upset.
I’m too tired to write more. I didn’t sleep much last night, then I had therapy, and then babysitting. I’m about ready for bed.
There’s a job fair on Tuesday. For some reason I’m going even though they’ve never been useful in the past. In the past though I always got overwhelmed and would get spacey and dissociative. I even asked M today, “But what if I dissociate?” Then I remembered that at one point I had a plan that my old therapist and I came up with, where if I got overwhelmed I would go to the bathroom or outside to ground myself. I wasn’t that good at grounding myself back then though. M smiled and was like, “See, you know what to do. What grounding technique will you use?” I thought about it for a minute before deciding on the 5 things I see/hear/feel technique thing. I guess I’ve gotten better at not just blanking out on the ways I can ground myself.